Having little ones in your outdoor tent wedding is great fun. They provide adorable photo opportunities, and they also have pretty big roles to pay. The flower girl, in particular, preps the aisle with pretty petals right before your grand entrance. You may have many questions in mind when picking a flower girl, like how do you choose one or how old should she be? Both are great questions, and we’re here to help. We’re answering some common questions when it comes to picking a flower girl.
How Old Should a Flower Girl Be?
Generally speaking, flower girls are between 4 and 8 years old. But this rule is not set in stone. Keep in mind that young children are often unpredictable. So, if you’re a stickler for details, then you may want to play it safe and pick someone older to be the flower girl.
Who Should Be the Flower Girl?
When picking a flower girl, your relationship with them matters. The best scenario is when you select a child who is already comfortable around you. If you’re lucky enough to have multiple options for a flower girl, it’s better to err on the side of caution concerning family politics. There’s no rule saying how many flower girls you need to have, and the last thing you want to do is hurt the other little girls in your family. If you’re set on having one flower girl, plan for the other children in your family to have tasks. They can hand out programs, blow bubbles, or toss confetti. A little outside the box thinking can include the littlest family members on your special day.
If you don’t have a young girl to choose from or aren’t inviting children to the wedding, there are still nontraditional but wonderful ways to preserve the role. You could consider a flower boy. Some brides are asking their grandmothers to toss flowers down the aisle instead. It’s adorable and a great way to include grandparents in the ceremony.
Parental Involvement
No matter if you choose your niece or your best friend’s daughter, you’ll want their parents’ permission first. Never approach the child first. At the same time, refrain from talking to the parents about their child being a flower girl unless you’ve already made up your mind. You don’t want to get the child’s or their parents’ hopes up if you’re still deciding.
When picking a flower girl, you should also consider how their parents will act. You’ll need to be in close communication with their parents to coordinate attire, travel, and rehearsal. Parents who are hard to get a hold of can add an unneeded layer of stress.
What Does a Flower Girl Wear?
Some flower girls are dressed in white to match the bride, while others are in a dress similar to the bridesmaids. The bride has the final say on the flower girl’s dress and accessories. If you want to make the girl feel more included and comfortable, pick out two or three different options you like and have her choose her favorite.
Who Pays for the Flower Girl’s Dress?
Traditionally, the flower girl’s parents pay for the dress the bride picks out. However, if what you’re envisioning is on the more expensive side, consider paying for all or part of the dress.
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